Checking Expectations

We've had some fun parties and play dates in the last few weeks! I think fall is one of the best time of year in Jacksonville because of the gorgeous park weather! Check out these pics!

Walking the trails at Alpine Groves park (not pictured: the walk back)

Gorgeous day at the air show!

Costume parade at the nursing home

Halloween party at the park after the parade

The zoo!

Today we had Dr. Noelle Pomeroy talk to us about sex at our meeting this morning. She opened it up for questions right away so we got into it quick.  If you already have a healthy sex life and good relationship, try the Mojo Upgrade quiz. She suggested scheduling and taking turns to lead to get back into a regular rhythm. For pelvic floor therapy, try a dilator. It's important to check your expectations for sex with your partner. There is no "normal" for frequency. It totally depends on what you feel comfortable with- what's your range of compromise with your partner? Are you at a happy medium? Electronics can mess with your sex life. Try sitting with your partner for an hour, uninterrupted talking about fun topics that make you happy. That will increase your dopamine level, instead of getting it through Facebook. Check out the sexual response cycle. We've talked about the "women are like crockpots and men are like microwaves". Scroll through the blog history for that recap! John Gottman talks a lot about the emotional bank account. I've read a few of his books. Good stuff! I asked about talking to my children about sex. Dr. Pomeroy recommended It's Not the Stork and to be open and honest from the beginning so sex doesn't come out as being a bad thing. Please contact her if you have anymore questions or feel like to need additional help. Another open, honest meeting with these amazing women!
I really enjoyed Perrin's mentor mom moment. She talked about the upcoming stress of the holidays and suggested lowering our expectations. You don't remember the sticky part when thinking back to your perfect Thanksgiving...but it's there! Your kids schedules will be out of whack, your husband has a different tolerance level for your family than you do. Cut them some slack and check your expectations. Great advice!

Happy Birthday to the November hot moms!